Oct 20, 2020
2 min read
Bunch of Notes on Sobriety and Insobriety
- You are a wiser and more productive person when sober, but..
- You a more interesting and less inhibited person when buzzed.
- No idea is a bad idea. You only think something is bad idea because you’ll still sober. Take a bit of vodka and see if an idea you previously thought was a terrible idea would still feel as ridiculous.
Still..
- Never text or phone a girl while you’re not sober, no matter how much of a good idea it feels like in the moment. You’d be glad for it the next morning when you’re sober again.
- Hooking up with girls is the same hassle whether sober or not sober. You still need to make her feel beautiful, show her your good traits, connect with her best sides, have engaging conversations, and get her to fancy you. The only difference is that while sober, there’s just more internal noise in your head telling you that you’re a klutz, and you’re unlovable, and she’ll never like you.
- With intoxicants, your self-loathing tendencies are suppressed and you feel invincible. In contrast with sobriety though, you never feel like you’d be great. There’s just all that voice in your head telling you that you’re making a fool of yourself, and she’ll go on to fuck some other cooler guy that’s not you.
- Girls don’t want to have to deal with your neurotic tendencies and insecurities. Making them have to deal with your insecurities makes them begin to associate time spent with you as a hassle, and an unpleasant experience — they don’t want to be your mom. They want a guy who can handle his problems, and not a boy who needs constant reassurance of his self-worth — and so they’d avoid spending time with you.
- They’d prefer a guy who’s out in the world handling shit and solving problems, instead of typing out shit on a blank page to post on the internet.
- They’ll rather spend their time alone, or with a confident guy with self-efficacy who’d give them an enjoyable experience — that guy is NOT you.
- Girls just want to spend time with someone that makes them feel good vibes, or at least someone that won’t bore them to death. For some, it’s philosophical and spiritual conversations that do it, for some it’s Big Brother Naija, for others it’s something in between.
- You don’t know enough about any of these things, Shiewhun. You also don’t have any money to have the ones who’d be willing to be with you for money. Go become a motherfucking monk.
